| We’ve all gone through hard times. And we all get through them. However, some get through them better than others. So what is their secret? Most of it has to do with attitude. 我们都经历过艰难时期，我们都能挺过来。只是有些人会做得好些。那么他们的秘诀是什么呢？大部分时候取决于我们的态度。 1. What is, is.是什么就是什么 Buddha’s famous saying tells us: “It is your resistance to ‘what is’ that causes your suffering.” Think about that for a minute. It means that our suffering only occurs when we resist how things are. If you can change something, then take action! Change it! But if you can’t change it, then you have two choices: (1) either accept it and let go of the negativity, or (2) make yourself miserable by obsessing over it. 佛经里有句古话说的好：“拒绝承认会让你觉得难受。“仔细想想。那句话的意思是说如果我们不希望某些事情发生，但是当事情发生了我们就会觉得难受。要是你能做些改变，那你就应该去做，改变它。但是如果你没法改变它，那么你只有两个选择：（1）要么就是接受，任其发展。或者（2）脑子里一直都是那些事，***后难受死。 2. It’s only a problem if you think it’s a problem.如果你认为那是个问题那就真的是个问题 Many times, we are our own worst enemy. Happiness is really dependent on perspective. If you think something is a problem, then your thoughts and emotions will be negative. But if you think it’s something you can learn from, then suddenly, it’s not a problem anymore. 大多数时候自己才是***的敌人。幸福与否经常是取决于我们对自身的期望。要是你老觉得那件事是个难题，那么你们思维、你的情感都会变得消极。反之，要是你能从中学到些什么，那么对你来说那些问题突然就不再是个事了。 3. If you want things to change, you need to start with changing yourself. 要想让某些事发生些变化，首先从改变你自己开始 Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Don’t you know people whose lives are chaotic and stressful? And isn’t that largely because they feel chaotic inside? Yes, it is. We like to think that changing our circumstances will change us. But we have it backwards—we need to change ourselves first before our circumstances will change. 现实世界是你内心世界的写照。你难道不知道他们的生活是一片混乱还是压力重重？生活上的这些问题难道不是因为他们心里的不平静？我们常常会认为改变环境也能改变我们自己。但那也会让我们往反方向发展——要想让我们周围的情况有所改变，首先应该改变我们自己。 4. There is no such thing as failure—only learning opportunities. 没有失败——只有抓住机会 You should just wipe the word “failure” right out of your vocabulary. All great people who have ever achieved anything have “failed” over and over. In fact, I think it was Thomas Edison who said something like, “I did not fail at inventing the light bulb, I just first found 99 ways that it didn’t work.” Take your so-called “failures” and learn something from them. Learn how to do it better next time. 你应该把“失败”这个词语从你的世界中抹去。许多伟人做成某事之前都“失败”过很多次。事实上，就像索马斯·爱迪生所说“我发明了电灯，但我也找到了99种不能做成电灯的方法。”收起你所谓的“失败”，在失败中学习。学习下次要怎样才可以做得更好。 5. If you don’t get something you want, it just means something better is coming.如果想要的东西没有得到，那只能说明你会有更好的 That’s hard to believe sometimes, I know. But it’s true. Usually, when you look back at your life, you will be able to see why it was actually a good thing that something didn’t work out. Maybe the job you didn’t get would have made you spend more time away from your family, but the job you did get was more flexible. Just have faith that everything happens exactly the way it’s supposed to. 我知道，有时候很难让人相信。但确实是这样。通常，当你回首往事，你就会发现为什么有些好事没发生在你身上。你没能得到的那份工作也许会让你失去很多与家人共度的时光，而你得到的那份工作的时间反而更灵活。只要相信每件事的发生发展都有其道理。
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